Feelings. Pain. Can't. Cope.
Self-harm is a way to cope with intense feelings, whether it’s used as a release or as a distraction, and turn to self-harm to allow you to focus on a different feeling: pain. You may find that you don’t have any support around you and are looking for a way to cope on your own.
Although self-harm is an extremely unhealthy coping strategy, it works, however, the benefits are short-lived, you’ll find yourself feeling either numb or the same negative feelings you tried to get away from, leading you to self-harm again.
There are several behaviours, which can be classed, as self-harm:
- Cutting yourself
- Pulling your hair out
- Scratching or picking at your skin
- Putting yourself in danger
- Purposefully abusing yourself e.g. alcohol use
- Purposefully injuring yourself e.g. burning yourself
You may find yourself having urges to self-harm, you can overcome this urge. There are ways to cope and do so in a healthy way where you won’t cause yourself harm:
- Place an ice cube in the palm of your hand and hold it tight until you’re ready to let go
- Put an elastic band on your wrist and with every urge, pull it
- Get a pen and draw on yourself instead of cutting yourself
- Remind yourself; these feelings will pass as they always do.
With the right help and support for self-harm, you can implement strategies that will allow you to deal with situations in a way which benefit you and doesn’t harm you. Find a therapist on our directory; we are very selective about whom we allow on our directory, we aim to have therapists who have the expertise to help you resolve your issues.