Self-harm is a way to cope with intense feelings, whether it’s used as a release or as a distraction, and turn to self-harm to allow you to focus on a different feeling: pain. You may find that you don’t have any support around you and are looking for a way to cope on your own.
Although self-harm is an extremely unhealthy coping strategy, it works, however, the benefits are short-lived, you’ll find yourself feeling either numb or the same negative feelings you tried to get away from, leading you to self-harm again.
e mild whereas others are more extreme.
Anxiety can be a physical feeling – you feel uneasy, unsure, you might experience sweaty palms, feeling unsettled, you may even feel it in the back of your throat or the pit of your stomach.
There are times when feeling anxious is ‘normal’, such as when you’re going for a job interview and may find you have some of the above symptoms. In these types of situations the anxiety is very short lived and these feelings do not tend to reoccur when you’re in other situations.
If you experience anxiety more regularly and it is affecting your day to day life, then it becomes an issue for you and/or those around you. Many people are affected by anxiety, varying in ages, ethnicities and gender. There are two treatments available for people suffering from anxiety: one is medication which can be prescribed by your GP, and the second is anxiety therapy.
When you work with us; we use a method widely known as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). This approach looks into the way you think before, during and after the situations where your anxiety is present. It may also be necessary to look at ways for you to cope with stressful situations, to enable you once the therapy process is finished to be able to deal with situations on your own.
There are several behaviours, which can be classed, as self-harm:
- Cutting yourself
- Pulling your hair out
- Scratching or picking at your skin
- Putting yourself in danger
- Purposefully abusing yourself e.g. alcohol use
- Purposefully injuring yourself e.g. burning yourself
You may find yourself having urges to self-harm, you can overcome this urge. There are ways to cope and do so in a healthy way where you won’t cause yourself harm:
- Place an ice cube in the palm of your hand and hold it tight until you’re ready to let go
- Put an elastic band on your wrist and with every urge, pull it
- Get a pen and draw on yourself instead of cutting yourself
- Remind yourself; these feelings will pass as they always do.
We have therapists working from Kay’s Counselling office in Birmingham and online via video calling. All our therapists go through a rigorous interview process, aiming to ensure they have the skills and knowledge to help you work through your issues through counselling or psychotherapy.
All our therapists know the level of courage it takes for you to contact us to start your journey, we aim to match the same level of courage in our therapists, who have a