Do you get angry over small issues?
When you get angry at the smallest thing that happens, this is because it’s a buildup on anger. There are going to be situations in your past where you didn’t deal with your anger at the time which resulted in it building up over time. This has a negative effect on you and your relationships. There are things you can do to help manage your anger:
- Anger is an emotion which kicks in to protect you when you’re hurt. You’re feeling angry because you’re vulnerable. Recognise what’s made you angry and where that stems from.
- Don’t trust any judgement you make when you’re angry. When you think rationally you may regret the things you have said and done when you’ve been angry.
- When you get angry, try going for a walk and think about the things which have made you angry – this will allow your body to get it out of your system in a healthy way.
- Another technique is to scream into a pillow or even in your car, keep the music up loud!
- Identify your triggers, this could be a situation where you feel you’ve been treated unfairly, feel like you’ve been disrespected, hurt, frustrated and or disappointed.
Once you’re aware of your trigger, try to find out what your impulse is, this could be any of the following which happens just before your anger kicks in:
- Feeling hot
- You raise your voice
- Feelings of jealousy
- Feeling threatened
- Feeling or irritability
- Sighing often and loudly
It’s always easier said than done but try to communicate how you feel rather than just getting angry. Repressing anger doesn’t help and builds up, try to talk to the other person about how they’re making you feel. If this isn’t possible, work through what’s happened in the past, talk through it, process it, acknowledge and accept the past and allow yourself to feel and move forward.
Counselling can help to identify your triggers, impulses as well as work through your past; with help and support. The first step of dealing with anything is acknowledging you have an issue which needs to be resolved.